It has been said that people with high emotional intelligence are happier, more successful (both personally and professionally) and are more successful at work. Why do you think that is? If someone has the ability to understand their emotions and the emotions of others, does that make him or her a better worker or leader than someone who doesn’t understand the emotions of others?
According to Psychology Today there are 3 skills that Emotional Intelligence includes:
- Emotional awareness, including the ability to identify your own emotions and those of others
- The ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving
- The ability to manage emotions, including the ability to regulate your own emotions, and the ability to cheer up or calm down another person
So what are some habits that people with a high emotional intelligence have? According to Fast Company there are 7 qualities:
- They focus on the positive
Emotionally intelligent people tend to not spend a lot of time and energy focusing on problems. Rather than get upset and think the worst, they look at a situation with a positive attitude and look for solutions on how to solve the problem. They understand what they are able to control and what they need to do to make the situation better.
- They surround themselves with positive people
Having a negative attitude and complaining all the time is a real downer – and nobody likes a downer. People who have a lot of emotional intelligence can sense when someone has a negative attitude and avoids hanging out with them; they seek out other positive people, who are like them and like to look at the brighter side of life!
- They are able to set boundaries and be assertive when necessary
They might be positive people, but they sure aren’t pushovers! They are confident in their decisions because they can be rational in any situation. They think before they speak and they give themselves time to calm down before making any rash decisions. They understand that emotions can be overwhelming and try not to let them control their actions. Even though they are firm in their decisions, they still demonstrate politeness and consideration for others. They also understand when to say no and don’t take on more than they can handle.
- They are forward thinking and willing to let go of the past
We can’t change the past, so why dwell on it! That’s what someone with high emotional intelligence goes by. They don’t focus on the past but rather learn from their actions and apply them to the future.
- They look for ways to make life more fun, happy, and interesting
We all know what makes us happy and what makes us sad. People with high emotional intelligence look for opportunities that make them happy and bring them joy. However, they are also considerate of others and it brings them lots of joy to help someone out and to brighten their day.
- They choose how to expend their energy and do so wisely
People with high emotional intelligence don’t hold grudges or anger over how others have treated them. Instead, they look for the positive and create awareness of how to not let it happen again. “Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me,” is the motto that they live by.
- Continually learning and growing towards independence
It’s important to have an open mind and to listen to what others have to say and to try and look at something from all angles. That is what people with high emotional intelligence try to do. They are constantly growing and learning, they are open to changing their minds if they think something else will work better. In the end, they trust themselves and their own judgement, as well as value the input of others.